How to Make 2019 the Year of “You” (Without Being a Selfish Jerk)
We’re all so busy. We have work. We have our families. We have things to do. Lots of things. And when you stop and think about it… does any of this sound eerily familiar?
- You say “yes” to every work project or social function, even though you could use a quiet night in… to reset.
- You rush through at least one meal a day either standing, in your car, or at your desk. You like enjoying your food, but who has the time?
- You feel like your family’s concierge… you cater to their every request. You help with transportation, meals, and everything in between.
You’re amazing. But here’s the problem:
When you spread yourself too thin, you almost always put yourself last. Your children need you. Your work. Your friends. All of these people need you…
…BUT WHAT ABOUT YOU?
What about what YOU need?
Hi, I’m Self Care Chris.
It’s 2019, and self-care is one of the most important things you can focus on to live a happier and healthier life.
(Some people take it a little too far. The University of British Columbia conducted a study where they discovered that wearing your significant other’s shirt could help you feel less stressed. And now, my girlfriend stole all my shirts).
And that’s where I come in.
I’m the little guy on your shoulder who lets you know that “Yes! You DESERVE to take care of yourself.”
You need to hear this. Do you know why?
Because there’s another little guy on your other shoulder… he makes you believe: “I’m okay. I can do it. I’ll take care of myself *later* – I don’t want to be selfish!”
But I can help. Because…
Self-Care Is Not Selfish… Self-Care Is Sacred
Self-Care Is Not Selfish.
Self-Care Is Sacred.
And you DESERVE to put yourself first.
Not all the time. But some of the time…
Your family, your friends, the people you love – you want to be there for them. But the truth is: When the plane goes down, you have to put YOUR oxygen mask on first.
Now… I know what you’re thinking! There are probably about one thousand things on your To Do list that remain very much undone. You have a crazed work schedule. Or a newborn. Or both. Your plate is about as full as it could be…
Yet, I’m here to tell you:
You don’t need to do more. It’s okay – let your husband (or your boyfriend, or your kids, or your roommates) do the dishes. You need to do something for YOU.
I learned this lesson the hard way but… When you always put yourself last, you’re not doing the people in your life any favors. Not in the long-run, anyway. Instead, you’re just setting yourself up to experience unnecessary stress.
And all that stress takes a serious toll on just about every aspect of your life:
It leads to exhaustion.
And health issues.
That’s why self-care is sacred. That’s why taking care of yourself comes FIRST.
I believe there are THREE pillars of self-care…
The 3 Pillars of Self-Care
Here are the three pillars of self-care. Neglect one and the “Temple of You” comes crashing down…
Self-Care Pillar #1: Take Care of Your Body
First, you deserve to take care of your body and make sure it’s as healthy as it can be. You never want to play “catch up” with your health. So, #1 you deserve to nourish your body with clean foods and supplements that give you the energy you need.
There are countless studies to prove it. Or as the World Health Organization notes, “Healthy diets and physical activity are key to good nutrition and necessary for a long and healthy life.”
Self-Care Pillar #2: Take Care of Your Mind
Taking care of our “mental” health sounds… scary… because… “HEY, I AM NOT CRAZY!!” No, but your mind is under constant stimulation. Many leading psychologists have identified this problem of “info-mania.” You’re thinking, deciding, messaging. All. The. Time.
When your mind is well-rested, you’re sharper. You’re more creative. You remember people’s names – for more than 5 seconds! The point is: Your brain also deserves a break.
Self-Care Pillar #3: Take Care of Your Emotions
Finally – and maybe most importantly – you deserve to FEEL GOOD. Seriously. Research (from the University of Pennsylvania) suggests that positive emotions can help make life longer and healthier.
So, you deserve to feel confident. You deserve to feel beautiful in your own skin. You deserve to treat yourself with the same compassion and positive energy you give to others.
So Where Do You Begin?
Self-care is not selfish. Self-care is sacred. And these are the three pillars.
#1: Take Care Of Your Body
#2: Take Care Of Your Mind
#3: Take Care Of Your Emotions
But where do you begin?
Don’t worry, I’m here to help. But maybe in a different way than you’d expect…
Making yourself a priority is not an “all or nothing” undertaking. Yet, that’s what some people want you to believe… and then they quickly go on to give you 57 new self-care habits…
“Sure, I’ll just turn my life upside down.” 🙄 Like you don’t have enough on your plate already!
No, no, no.
Stop falling for these radical “lifestyle change” resolutions. Stop kidding yourself it’s even possible. Stop telling yourself that you’re supposed to do more, more, more…
Instead, I want to suggest ONE easy self-care ritual that fits into your busy life.
It can be anything. Maybe it’s as simple as getting a manicure once a week. Or waking up a little bit earlier each day to meditate.
…but there’s also one more thing you can do.
And, the best part? It supports ALL THREE pillars of self-care:
#1 – It nourishes your body (by supporting the health of your skin, hair, nails, bones, and more).
#2 – It’s NOT another “to do” that puts more stress on your brain or requires you to carve out extra time (bonus: it promotes restful sleep)
#3 – It helps you look and FEEL ah-mazing! 🙌
And remember… YOU DESERVE IT.
Because self-care is not selfish.
Self-care is sacred.
I will share more on Monday. If you don’t want to miss it, make sure you click the button below – and I’ll keep you posted (oh, and there’s a free gift 😉
And of course, if you know someone who needs to focus on self care this year…